My Partner Won’t Go To Therapy with Me, Deal Breaker?

“I can’t get my mind to stop during meditation!” Well you shouldn’t, you would die! Tessa and Madhur-Nain Webster explore what chanting and mantras are, where they came from, and the benefits.
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(00:00) Who is Madhur-Nain Webster?

(02:30) Blending marriage counseling with yogic traditions

(05:00) New age and how do we honor that today

(10:05) “I can’t meditate, I can’t get my mind to stop”

(14:30) How to make the habit stick

(19:10) Chanting and Mantras

(25:35) Sanskrit and other languages

(29:10) What should my mantra be?

(30:55) The Stressless Brain

(34:30) Marriage counseling

(38:15) Relationship deal breakers

(48:00) Communication

(53:00) What would you tell your younger self

Key Takeaways

1. How we think is how we feel, how we feel is how we behave; they’re connected!  Studies show that a simple three minutes of meditation lowers blood pressure.  If you find it difficult to begin meditation, create space between your thoughts and improve the quality of them.  To make it a habit, remember that starting small and short is the ultimate key.  Breathing keeps you alive, meditation keeps you sane.

2. While some may find them “weird” or “funny” to do, the pulse-like rhythm of chanting and mantras are for grounding ourselves and activate the vagus nerve.  Chanting in a foreign language, such as Sanskrit or Latin may be helpful rather than your mother tongue, as your brain slows as it isn’t thinking about the meaning of the words; you’ll be feeling the power of the rhythm instead.  To get comfortable with it, first listen, then mouth the words, whisper along, and then finally build up to chanting on your own.

3. Counseling and therapy, either individually or as a couple, will interest some, but not all.  If there is resistance in a relationship on going to therapy, even if just the one person goes, it will affect the dynamic.  That one person will begin to behave, think, and feel different after therapy, which will influence their partner.  Someone will eventually need to shape up or leave.  Remember to ask yourself what are the deal breakers in your relationship.

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